Counselling for men

who need anger management, help with depression or help with anxiety.

What ever the problem is, we can work it out.

But how can I help you?

Sometimes we know whats going wrong in our lives.

We don't like our jobs

We don't have the energy for the gym

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We wish we had a girlfriend

We haven't got the time to study for a new qualification


And we hear people say things like "if you don't like your job, change it". "Why don't you just ask her out"? "If you haven't got time, make time". "If you want to do it, you'll do it" and "Whats the worst that could happen"?

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Which is all great advice and if it was that simple, we would follow it, right? You don't have to be Einstein to know there is something wrong!

Other times, we know something is wrong but can't figure out what or don't know how to put it right.

Whether we know what's wrong or we don't, sometime's we just need some help to start getting to where we want to be.

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And thats where I come in.


I'm Kieran and I work with guy's to create the kind of life they really want for themselves.  You don't have to struggle alone.  We'll work together to find the solutions you need in your life, bring success and get back to feeling positive!

Kieran Mountney - Counsellor at Hisownman.com
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Like a lot of the guys, as a child, I learn't to hide my real feelings. If I expressed anger, I would be told to "stop being naughty", If I laughed too loud, I was told to "stop being noisy". And as guys, we quickly learn that if we're feeling sad or upset, we don't show our emotions because "boys don't cry" and if I did cry, I felt pretty sure I would be ridiculed for it and called a "girl" or worse!

My father showed me no affection at all and this was who I learn't to "be a man" from. Someone who told me to keep quiet!

To boot, I was always watching 80's action movies, tv shows and cartoons which were full of gun toting hero's. So that was me; a guy who couldn't express himself but wanted to save the world. What chance did I have?

It took a long time for me to realise that the reason I wasn't getting on in life was because of the way I was approaching life. I was hiding behind a "macho" facade and nobody knew the real me. I might have appeared as the "strong, silent type" on the outside but on the inside I was lost.

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Relationships came and went because I couldn't express what I wanted from them.  Jobs and career opportunities too because I didn't know how to form meaningful relationships.  Had I been able to listen to my feelings and not hide from them, I would have been able to ask for help when I needed it and do the things that were right for me and not what I thought "people" expected me to do.    

I'm not going to pretend this will be easy

or you'll change over night but by working together, we can create a "safe space" where you can feel comfortable talking about whatever it is that is "bothering you". We'll work together to find solutions and find that feeling of being positive about your life again.

Address:

6 Hull Road, Camborne, TR14 8GS

Phone:

Telephone: 01209699781
Mobile: 07851512049

E-mail:

kieran.mountney@hisownman.com